I’m taking a little break from my usual topic to address something that has been coming up lately in my readings and sessions. Lately, I have found myself working with very good souls who ask me about the toxic people in their lives. Usually, they‘re asking me about how they can change to make these people happier. Many of these clients of mine are mistaken: they’re not the problem. The other person is the problem.

Who are “Toxic” People?

Toxic people are unable to deal with their own problems, t0 self-soothe, or to learn from their experiences. They have negative energy and demand that others take care of them, much in the way a toddler demands attention from adults. I get my fair share of these types of customers as a psychic. I can tell who they are right away because they always follow this pattern:

#1: They tell me how wonderful they are.

#2: They flatter me to no end.

#3: They start making demands.

#4: They blame me for their unhappiness.

#5: They demand that I somehow become different.

This can happen all in one session. If it were a child, you would simply roll your eyes. However, these people can do a lot of damage, and they often do. They can ruin reputations, business, marriages, families, and lives. Sometimes, they even drive other people to suicide.

Why Do Sensitive People Attract Toxic People?

Sensitive people are easy prey for toxic people because sensitive people are empathetic and want to help. They may have been conditioned to use their special gifts to care for others. So, they may feel guilty when they don’t try to save another adult from themselves. Many sensitive souls are also born into toxic families because they don’t resolve their karma with toxic people from their past lives.

How Do you Deal with Toxic People?

Solution #1: Gray Rock.

One of the best ways to make toxic people go away is to give them no attention. Be as boring as a gray rock. Don’t feed into their meltdowns. Don’t care. Don’t try to take care of them. They are bottomless pits, and no amount of help, listening, or understanding will fix them. They can only fix themselves, and they will only fix themselves if they have no one else to blame.

Don’t give in to guilt trips. You owe no adult their happiness or emotional stability.

Solution #2: Go no contact.

Sometimes, the best solution is to cut someone off completely. Granted, toxic people fear abandonment, but they also create abandonment. It’s you or them, and if they had it their way, they would take you down with them. No emails, no phone calls, no messages. No contact.

This means not talking to them through third parties, also known as “flying monkeys.” Like the Wicked Witch of the West, the toxic person will have others do their dirty work. Cut off the flying monkeys too.

This could leave you lonely for a while, but look at it this way: you’re sweeping house and cleaning up so good friends can arrive.

Solution #3: Change your lifestyle.

Toxic people are like leeches in murky water. If you’re not wading in murky water, you won’t find them. Do you hang out at places where toxic people gather, like bars, or do you work in an industry that attracts toxic people? Do you have a tendency to listen to people’s problems or try to help them when you don’t even know them? Were you always told you have a duty to other people first? If so, then it’s time to change your lifestyle so you attract good people.

I can help you. I can give you an astrological reading to find out what your strengths are and how to find good friends instead of toxic ones.